The Holy Grail of Handbags and Happiness

Confession: I am a purse snob.

Back when we were actually going places and needed such frivolous things, I had a handbag obsession.

And sadly, it’s been an obsession with high quality, not-Target purses. Now don’t get me wrong, I love me my Bullseye Superstore and I must say it is rockin’ the fashion department these days. (well, maybe the #targetdress isn’t exactly rockin’, but it definitely meets my Little House on the Prairie needs….but that’s for a whole ‘nother post.)

Have you seen the #targetdresschallenge ??


But every time I try to get an everyday bag from my second home, it falls apart wayyy too quickly and I find myself wishing I would have just spent more money to get what I REALLY wanted.

Now I could go on and on about the merits of a well-made bag and how you are worth one for yourself, but that’s not what I want to talk about today. I want to tell you a story.

Once upon a time, I found myself hunting and pecking in my local department store accessories department, looking for the Handbag Holy Grail. As I meandered my way through the Coach area, this wonderful man sauntered over and asked how he could help me. Sensing his knowledgeable yet playful aura, I accepted his invitation to dance the shoulder bag ballet. We had so much fun plie-ing around the store, joking and laughing, that I completely forgot that he was actually trying to sell me something.

Needless to say, he was excellent at his job and made it look like a complete blast, so after saying, “I’ll take it!” to the bag, I also exclaimed that I had so much fun with that experience that I wanted to work with him–were they hiring?

Here I am in my matronly Coach-uniform finest.

I don’t even remember if I was actively looking for a new job at that point, but that was the farthest from my mind when I went in there. All I knew was that this sales dude was surrounded by beautiful objects and got to connect and laugh with others–and I wanted me some of that action!

Unfortunately for me they were not looking for anyone at his store at that time, but he directed me to another Coach store that he thought I would be a great fit at. A month or so later, I was there–surrounded by beautiful objects, connecting and laughing with others, doing my own shoulder bag shuffle.

I am no longer working at that store, but it was a really fun period of my life. And I never would have had that experience if I hadn’t listened to the inner CEO of my soul and said what was on my mind.

This kind of thing happens to me all the time because, every day, I walk around (or sit on my ass) with an open heart and an open mind. I’m always ready to discover and accept any random lightbulbs that go off in my head telling me, “oooh, I want to know more about that!” and–this is the key– I act on them.

Overhear someone talking about a yoga class you’ve always wanted to try? Introduce yourself and ask them if they’d share info about it. Notice a friend of an online friend that works at your dream company? Ask your pal to be introduced so you can make a connection! See someone wearing a bright pink faux fur coat that uncharacteristically makes your heart sing? Ask them where they got it so you can rock one out yourself!

So many times we ignore or put aside an impulse to speak up or ask about something because we are afraid we will bother someone or they will think we’re weird. First of all, people LOVE sharing things about themselves, especially if you think whatever they have or are doing is cool. Second, you say ‘weird’ like it’s a bad thing…?

Even worse, we don’t even acknowledge the impulse or attraction to something because it feels out of character, it doesn’t seem like the right time, we have no idea where it even came from…any or all of the above. My friends! This is tragic, because these are the very clues that it’s time to be paying extra special attention! This is your subconscious, your soul, your Force, whatever the hell you want to call it, desperately pulling on your pant leg. It’s coming from the place that knows what REALLY lights you up and feels like home, and it wants you to go there already!

Start today! Start paying attention to that little voice inside you and acting on what it’s telling you explore. (as long as it’s not telling you to be just like serial-killer Dexter. I’m re-watching that show right now.) Trust that your insides know what is right for you and it will help to lead you to the Holy Grail of Happiness!

And if you get a new purse, let me know what it is! Right now I’m obsessed with my M Z Wallace bag. That I did buy during the pandemic. Even though I’m really only carrying it to Target.

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